Saturday, 25 May 2013


fresh connective coaching

Most of us will agree that a successful life is a life lived in accordance with our wishes, where we can be comfortable in saying that we're proud of our accomplishments and attainments.

If we take a giant step back from judgement for a minute and choose to not to give experiences a label of "good" or "bad" but view them simply as just "experience"  (after all that's what humans have come here for, to "Experience") we could say that we're all successful 100% of the time.

If we swapped the word successful for words like happy or peaceful we'd be more able to measure how we feel about our life experiences. By being on the lookout for how we feel, we can gage immediately whether we're acting in accordance with our values. Learn to become more emotionally intelligent, use your emotions as a guide. 

When living in-line with our values we tend to feel more comfortable, calm and more in control.
You'll know pretty instantly if what you are doing, thinking or feeling doesn't respect your values, it's usually where anxiety creeps in. To continue along a path that feels as though it goes against the grain of who you are, is not advisable if you fancy an outcome of joy, happiness or peace. Compromising your values creates a bumpy road ahead. When you know what your values are decision making becomes far easier.

So to measure personal success be sure to know your core values and your beliefs about them. Exploring this major part of what makes you tick can be the difference between making comfortable decisions that are aligned with who you are and allowing yourself to be swayed by someone else’s ideas.

 So in create a successful life that feels happy, exciting and peaceful, spend some time working out what makes your heart smile, then consciously and mindfully, be and do whatever makes your heart smile 

Thursday, 16 May 2013


Find your key emotion; this maybe all you need to know to find your short story ~ F.Scott Fitzgerald
"He had one of those rare smiles with a quality of eternal reassurance in it, that you may come across four or five times in life. It faced, or seemed to face, the whole external world for an instant and then concentrated on you with an irresistible prejudice in your favor. It understood you just as far as you wanted to be understood, believed in you as you would like to believe in yourself" (from The Great Gatsby)

Following on with the Gatsby theme :-)  I was just reflecting on this (literally) and musing over how we see ourselves reflected back to us through others. We see what we want to see through our personal filters.
We have such strong ideas of our own identities that our subconscious mind will do almost anything to preserve and prove that our ideas of our own identity are true for us. Life is so much easier when we can be more flexible about "who" we are...
At the most basic level, simply, we are consciousness, we are love., everything over and above that is a label of choice which we can choose or lose or add at any time.
 What or whoever you decide you are, the universe will show you evidence over and over to be true. so, choose an inner dialogue using positive outstanding labels.

Tuesday, 14 May 2013


The personal development world is awash with the rules for the "law of attraction" and Abraham tells us so eloquently through Esther Hicks to keep reaching for better feeling thoughts which is wonderful, until you take your eye off the ball and fall off the band wagon as everyone does when they're starting out with a new habit or concept.
 So here’s a fast five minute exercise to get you back into the driver’s seat and back in the game.

 As you think your thoughts and feel your emotions so you create your experience. Because of the latter I highly recommend creating momentum here and deliberately committing yourself by setting your alarm to tell you it's time to tune inwards if necessary.

We're more likely to be in a downward spiral if we've lost our vision for a compelling future. So if you feel yourself spiralling take 5 mins to calibrate to get back on the "up".

1 Bring your awareness to your body, sit or stand up straight, feet on the floor, close your eyes and drop your shoulders.

2 Put your hand over your heart and with every in-breath imagine breathing light into your heart centre, do this until you feel calm and neutral.

3 Sense how it would feel to experience peace of mind, happiness and abundance. Imagine your life if peace of mind, happiness and abundance became your motivation in all that you do. 

4 Visualize yourself in six months’ time opening your heart to everyone you meet, how "alive" do you feel? 

What if living from your authentic loving self became your focus? 
What if you allowed yourself to drop all of the masks that weigh you down and stepped fully into the freedom of being who you really are, how does that feel to you?

 5 Take a few moments to really sense what that means to you. As you become one with the feeling of freedom imagine that energy filtering into every cell of your body.

6 Keep breathing light into your heart centre and remind yourself that you are free to evolve.

                                               That’s it!!

 The more you do this, the more you experience heart coherence and the more aligned to your dreams you will become. This solution is simple but not simplistic in nature,
my tutor Tony Robbins says over and over that repetition is the mother of skill and boy oh boy is that true here. Dawn